I was so honored and excited to be invited last month to be a new monthly contributor over on the awesome site, Young Wives Club! Here is my first article for them. 🙂
We have all had those moments. If we have been married for any length of time at all, we have all had those moments at one time or another when we look at our husbands and think they are the enemy.
Most likely we wouldn’t say it in so many words and perhaps we have never dared to even use that term in reference to our guys, but that feeling is nevertheless lurking in our hearts sometimes, whether we have ever realized it or not.
It’s there when we find our husband’s dirty socks on the floor and think, “Ugh, he is always fighting against my pursuit of a clean home!” or “He needs to step in and help me, not add to the overpowering monster that is the growing laundry pile!” That feeling is there when he lets the kids do something that we would not personally allow. That feeling that our husband is the enemy is there lurking when we look at our men and think, “Goodness, my life would be so much easier if he would or would not (fill in the blank)!
It’s a dangerous feeling because it is a feeling shrouded in mere frustration or, at times, selfishness or sometimes even in good and holy desires for a more Biblical life. We wouldn’t necessarily ever think – in so many words – that we are viewing our husbands as the enemy and the problem, but we are. When we think of how they stress us out or of how happy we would be if they simply changed in some way, we are viewing them as the enemy of our desires, our plans, our wants, our picture of the perfect life. But, sisters, hear me when I say – your husband is not the enemy.
To read on, head over to the Young Wives Club!