This year has absolutely flown by, and we are somehow already embarking on the holiday season! For some of you, this may even be you and your husband’s very first holiday season as a married couple! As exciting, new, and joyful as that is, the holidays can also lead to stress and conflict if we allow them to do so. It is with that in mind that I want to share with you newly married ladies a few tips to aid you in your endeavor to make holiday memories this year that will last a lifetime!
Remember who you are.
On the day you got married, you and your husband became one flesh (see Genesis 2:23-24). From that moment on, you are on the same team and have become a new family unit. With that in mind, remember as you approach the holidays that you have the freedom to craft this season they way you and your husband want it to be. You don’t have to automatically go along with anything and everything your in-laws or your friends or anyone else wants you to do this season. You get to decide what the holidays will look like for your new family! You get to make new traditions and enjoy the freedom which comes with being married now.
One thing you do want to make sure is that you don’t exercise your freedom as your own family unit in a way that will hurt the feelings of your extending family members! Do not unnecessarily rain on their parade or come down hard on their wishes because of differing plans. You are to still show your parents (and your husband’s parents!) honor even as you perhaps disagree on what the holidays should look like this year.
Another thing to keep in mind is that you need to show consideration for your new husband’s wishes, as well! Your husband grew up with his own unique childhood and has his own history – there are likely various holiday traditions from his growing-up years that mean a lot to your husband. Take those into consideration as you make your plans for the months ahead.
Just as your husband has particular traditions and things he likes to do to celebrate the holidays, you probably do, as well! Don’t keep these to yourself. Don’t expect your husband to know your entire history or to be able to read your mind and assume your expectations as you approach the holidays. Be open and honest – exercise good communication as you share with your husband what would make the holiday season special for you.
To read the other tips, head over to the Young Wives Club!