I’m honored to be guest-posting on my friend, Megan’s, blog today about another topic covered in #LiesMomsBelieve!
As Christian moms living in an increasingly dark and perverse culture, we so desperately want to preserve our children’s innocence as long as we possibly can. We want to shelter them from all that is out in the world, hiding them away from the evil realities that lurk everywhere from the internet and TV commercials to play groups and magazine covers at checkout stands. And rightfully so! Our children have been entrusted to us by God, so that we might raise them in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, seeking to train them up in the way that they should go. We are responsible for working to preserve their purity as best we can.
We have a problem, however, when our response to this is an overemphasis on a bunch of rules and regulations, imagining them to be the answer for the question of how to raise godly kids. The fact of the matter is that parents have, particularly in recent decades, so reacted to the darkness pervading our culture that they have bought into the lie that their focus should be on rules, as if implementing just the right family rules will result in children with clean hearts before God. This is one of the many lies I address in ‘Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them)’ and is, I believe, a very timely one to cover in our day and age.”
This overemphasis today on rules and regulations in parenting comes with good intentions, of course. When we are blessed with children in an era of rampant pornography at our fingertips and inappropriate adult themes bombarding our eyes and ears on a regular basis, our tendency is to address the situation with a bunch of “thou shalt nots”, assuming them to be sufficient for handling the situation – “Thou shalt not have an account on social media”, “Thou shalt not access the internet unless you do so in a public room of the family home”, etc. While family rules certainly have a place and they do play an important part in our raising of children, we make a grave mistake if they constitute the sum total of our training in these areas.
To read the rest, head on over to Megan’s blog!