Welcome back to another installment in our monthly Husband of the Blogger LinkUp, where you get to know the man behind the scenes of this blog! 🙂 If you have missed any of our prior interviews that I have done with my husband, Owen, you can find all of them here.
You can also join my friends who are also doing this linkup along with us:
Kayla at The Accidental Nomad Life
Crystal at Pennies and Playdough
Amber at Embrace This Joyful Life
We would love to have you join in the fun, as well!
Without further ado, let’s get started with today’s interview! 🙂
1. In reference to Ephesians 5:22-33, what is your interpretation of “wives, submit to your husbands?”
There is always a figure head in every form of government. Whether it is the governing of a nation, a state, a colony, a club, or a family. Anything other is leaning toward the rule of the mob. And the word “mob” is only a good thing when it comes after the word “flash”. There always has to be one person who makes the decisions (big or small) and takes responsibility for them. Otherwise, people end up pointing fingers and assigning blame in every direction. The husband is supposed to represent Christ in every marriage. And Christ made the biggest decision and took more blame onto Himself than anyone else ever has or ever will on this earth. And, much like the way Christ expects the church to submit authority over the church to Him, Christ wants the wife to submit authority over the family to the husband.
haha I loved his reference to flash mobs. 😀 That’s my jokester for ya!
2. How do you feel about the word, “submit”?
I don’t like the picture that society has painted with this word. Nowadays, when someone says that a wife should submit to their husband, they believe that to mean that the wife should go home, put a towel over her head, scrub the floors, cook the meals, and have babies. All while being barefoot! lol THIS IS ABSURD! Refer to my first answer for my thoughts on the word “submit”.
ha! Love him. While many of those things he mentioned are things I do, I love his balance. He’s no chauvinist! While we both wholeheartedly believe that as a wife and mom, my calling is to also care for the home in addition to my family, that is not at all a woman-only job in our home. My husband and I (as he goes on to say in a minute) are partners in every sense of the word. As such, we both take care of this home we are running as husband and wife. We each do what needs to be done when we see it needing done. I love that!
3. In your opinion, what does a “wife” look like? How does she act?
She looks HOT! And when I get home from work and the kids are away with their grandparents, my wife acts like… Oh wait! You mean “*A* wife”?! Not my wife? Oh, sorry! What a wife looks like to me is a perfect representation of a “Helpmate”. Someone who is there to share in the burdens (these descriptions work both ways, guys). The word “burdens” applies to so many different walks in life. There’s spiritual burdens, physical, emotional, and financial. God did not make Adam to tend to the garden of Eden, alone.
hahaha Oh mylanta! 😀 Where is the monkey emoji with its hands over its face when you need it??
In addition to the description I gave above, a godly husband should be ready to take the lead for his family, not because he wants to be in charge, but because it is his duty to take responsibility for his family’s welfare.
I love his emphasis on a husband being responsible for his family’s *welfare*. This authority/submission thing is not about the husband “lording it” over the wife, or about a wife being inferior and no more than the equivalent of another child in the household. Rather, I love my man’s emphasis on this set-up in Ephesians being about the responsibility of the wellbeing and direction of the family resting on the shoulders of the husband. If we wives get bent out of shape about our role of submitting, just imagine what it must feel like for our guys and the weight of responsibility they have on their shoulders!
5. Together, how can we better reflect the husband and wife in Ephesians?
Try reading all of my previous answers. Women, submit AUTHORITY to your husbands. You may not like being told what the family should do, but he should make the decisions and bear the responsibility. Men, you’re supposed to be the Christ figure in this picture God has painted. And both of you need to remember that you are “partners” in this holy union. ACT LIKE IT!!! Owen out! (Drop mic)
hahahaha And that, ladies and gentlemen, is my goober of a husband! 😀 Amen on the fact that we are “partners”. The way this headship/submission looks in our home is the way we believe the Bible portrays it - I am my husband’s capable, competent helper and partner in a mission to advance God’s Kingdom. I am not a brainless drudge. As such, we discuss each and every decision that arises. He takes into consideration my thoughts and concerns. But! At the end of the day, the responsibility for making the final decision lays on his shoulders, and the responsibility to submit to that decision is on mine.
Thank you for joining us in this month’s linkup! I hope you enjoyed it! As always, we welcome you to go through these questions with your own husband, getting to know him better in the process and fostering good communication in your marriage. We will be taking a short break from these interviews over the holidays, but will be starting back up with gusto in January! Looking forward to joining you then!
kayla nelson says
Haha! Oh my! This is such fun, and your wedding pictures are GORGEOUS. If Andrew had been in the Air Force when we got married, he would have worn his uniform too, I love their dress blues!!!