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When Mommy Guilt Comes Calling

October 17, 2025 by Rebekah Hargraves Leave a Comment

My friend, Laura, from Homemaking for His Glory, is on the launch team for Lies Moms Believe

and graciously invited me to share a guest-post on her blog on the topic of mommy guilt. I hope you’re encouraged!

 

 

When Mommy Guilt Comes Calling

 

What would you say if I told you that, as Christian moms, we can be free from mommy guilt once and for all? Would you believe me? This may seem like wishful thinking if mommy guilt is something you struggle with on a daily basis. In truth, however, it is not wishful thinking for a daughter of God – if she has a Biblical understanding of the truth of the Gospel and its full implications.

The answer to our mommy guilt problem is not found in reading more self-help books. It is not found in implementing into our lives more Pinterest-inspired craft times, organic meals, and elaborate birthday parties. It is not found in, through our own strength, “trying harder” to be good moms. Rather, the answer to our problem of pervasive mommy guilt is found in right theology. It all comes down to whether or not we are taking every thought captive to the truth of God’s Word. It all comes down to our realizing once and for all that the good news of the Gospel does not merely affect our eternity, but our everyday lives, as well.

What does this look like, though, practically speaking? When mommy guilt comes a-calling, what are we to do? How can the Gospel actually impact our feelings of mommy guilt on a daily basis? To answer these questions, what follows is a list of 5 things we should do when we find ourselves experiencing mommy guilt.

 

5 Things to Do When Mommy Guilt Comes Calling

 

Understand your position and identity in Christ.

This is positively crucial (which is precisely why it’s #1 in the list of things we must do if we are going to combat mommy guilt). The good news of the Gospel is relevant and applicable even to the mommy guilt issue because if we are in Christ, we are forever free from guilt and shame. At the moment of salvation, our sin is forever removed as far from us as the east is from the west (Psalm 103:12), in its place is imputed the very righteousness of Christ Himself, and thus when God looks at us, He now sees nothing but perfection and holiness. He sees Christ and what He accomplished on our behalf. This is why Paul is able to then say in Romans 8:1 that “there is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit. (emphasis mine)” Your position, your standing before God, your very identity itself is now based in what Christ did for you and His righteousness that is now your own. Your identity and worth as a mom are not based on what you do, but in Whose you are. They are not based on what you do, but on what Christ did. Therefore, when you understand the full implications of this truth, you can shed the burden of mommy guilt once and for all, understanding that when God looks at you, He does not see a guilty person. He sees a redeemed saint in Christ. Knowing how God looks at you is essential for being freed from the burden of mommy guilt.

 

To read the rest, head on over to Laura’s blog!

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